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7 skills to increase your resilience


Definition on Resilience:

Resilience is the ability to adapt, pursue and bounce back in the face of adversity or significant challenges. Strengthening resilience involves the development of specific skill that empower individual to navigate the overcome difficult situations with greater ease. To know more on meditation and mindfulness, read this article,

By incorporating, these skills to increase resilience, individuals can build a robust foundation to face life’s trials more effectively. Here are seven key skills crucial for enhancing resilience:

  • Write your story, not others:

We are the scriptwriters, directors, and actors of our movies of life. But throughout the name, when we watch or interact with others, we keep writing mental scripts of how they are, how they should be and what they should be in the process. We forget to short, fix, or perfect our own role. Thinking of someone else is an unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves. Our co-actors are responsible for their roles. They write their own scripts and follow them.

Focus on perfecting your own performance. Do not think about other people. Let your style and your personality of peace, love and kindness reflect in every scene of your life. Create what you enjoy watching. Even if other actors do not perform right, your performance can give them a cure to correct themselves.

  • Make acceptance natural:

All of us hold a desire that the world should bend to our wants. And when it does not, we start questioning the circumstance. We even dislike ourselves, our home, family, friends, or career in such moments. It means we do not go with the flow. We try to block or push away the reality in our thoughts and feelings. Most of our stress comes from the inner struggle to wrestle with the natural flow. Our stiff resistance become a barrier to peace. Besides, the act of resisting depletes inner power and create stress.

Do not ask why, where when or how difficult experiences inevitably occur. Shift from asking, “what is this”? to accepting as “This is it.” When you surrender to the reality instead of resisting it, you conserve energy. This conserved energy can then be used to focus on solutions and new possibilities. Start with acceptance of people and situations and then influence them, or empower them to change. Be open to newness and changes.

  • Choose your words wisely:

Words are the most powerful tools at our disposal, but they are often underrated. Many of us are in the habit of speaking far more than is necessary. Whether it is to ask inform, explain, advise, convince, or impress, we tend to overthink and hence over speak. This urge to speak does not leave the margin to choose our words carefully, add value or speak pleasantly. It becomes difficult for us to connect with our inner peace. Excessive talking depletes our energy and eventually increases stress.

Practice speaking less throughout your day. After a few weeks begin to speak more softly. Observe your vocabulary and eliminate low energy or negative words. Gradually, your words will raise your vibrations, the vibrations of situations and of the people around you. You will be more at ease with yourself.

  • Flip negative labels:

All through our life, people bombard us with labels, for whom we are or are not, based on our achievements, appearance, background, personality, or positions. Negative labels are risky because we come to believe them and accept those labels as our reality. When we repeat them over and over in our thoughts, our mind and body respond and start living by that label. This causes us to feel bad or dislike ourselves. Nothing is more stressful than self-hate.

Review the labels you describe yourself with. Replace every single negative label with a pure, powerful, positive label. If you have called yourself a failure, write down the things you have succeeded in. Make them your vocabulary. Repeat them consistently for a few days until the stick and get reinforced as your truth. Feeling good about yourself is a huge step in experiencing peace.

  • Listen to the tutor within:

We take dozens of decisions every single day, and at time struggle to discern rights and wrongs. The doubts and deliberation can become stressful. Fortunately, we have all the answers we seek within us. Our innate wisdom, inner voice, intellect, intuition, or gut feeling in the subconscious mind is always active and guides us correctly. We have all experienced our intuition at work. We say I wish I had listened to my instincts or something tells me this is not good for me. All we need is to listen to it. Otherwise, our responses will be driven by the stored patterns of our old sanskars.

Spend a few minutes with yourself in silence every day. Introspect on your consequences of your answers before choosing your karma. That is when you will hear the intuition. Do not doubt that inner voice and do not fear any challenges that might come up after you execute intuitive decisions. Remember that your intuition always knows what is right for you.

  • Make trusteeship a lifestyle:

We are bestowed with so much in life- body, relationships, achievements, material possessions and natural resources. We are supposed to take care of them and use them as trustees. But somehow, we assume ownership of everything that we have not become emotionally attached to them, where there is attachment, there will be fear of losing, and where there is fear, there will be stress. Despite knowing that we will eventually lose all that we possess, we will cling on to them and hope to never part of with anything.

Practice a new consciousness instead of ownership, be a trustee. Change how to relate to whatever you feel attached to. A trustee knows that he is untrusted to manage someone else’s assets. So as a trustee, you can take better care. because it would be carrying without fear, possessiveness, or control. This will keep your mind at ease and relaxed.

  • Transcend illusions about yourself:

Self-awareness is a precursor to emotional stamina. Unfortunately, many of us do not know our reality as souls, even after having lived for 30,50 or 70 years. Even if we know we keep identifying with the body and the labels of roles, positions, and achievements. We first stress about gaining all of them, and then stress about holding on to them. After all, how we perceive ourselves influence how we see the world around us. Regaining the awareness of the self puts a lid on our illusions, Stabilizing the truth of the self being a peaceful soul helps us to easily recognize emotions like fear, anxiety, or pain, which can otherwise leave us stress.

You are a soul who is in embodiment of peace and power. Hold on to this truth so tightly that the awareness does not sleep away while you keep acquiring position in life. Roles, positions, and achievements certainly deserve your time and attention, but do not let them steer you away from your real identity.

Conclusion on Resilience:

By cultivating these skills, people can fortify their resilience, allowing them to face life’s unpredictable twists and turns with greater confidence and adaptability.

Moreover, embracing adaptability, emotional regulation, positive thinking, problem solving, social support, self-care, and persistence, creates a solid framework for resilience.

Furthermore, this resilient mindset not only enables individual to weather adversity, but also empowers them to emerge stronger and more capable, ready to tackle whatever challenges may come their way.

Dr.Hetal Patel


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